Frequently Asked Questions

Sure, we have parties for couples and singles, on occasion we have 'Couples Only' parties, and every once in a while we'll have 'singles' parties. Couples are allowed to our singles parties, but single men are not allowed to any of our couples only parties, and single women are welcome at ALL of our parties.

Yes, actually I do - First of all, being into this lifestyle will take a solid relationship and make it even more so, but it will take a struggling relationship and most likely flush it right down the toilet. Don't come here to try to 'save' your relationship. If you're just looking for some added flavor in your lives, then come check us out, meet some new friends, and explore the possibilities. For most couples, being in this lifestyle, brings them even closer, but you have to be solid to begin with. Jealously is a natural emotion that stems from insecurities, don't come here drooling over somebody else and making a big deal how hot this other person is if you haven't FIRST, made sure your partner KNOWS that they are the MOST important.

Of course not! - You're never expected to do anything that you're not comfortable with, ever! In fact, many people come just to be social and MOST of our parties, that's okay. We do have some parties, or workshops that are more intense than others, and for those, we ask for only those who are willing to participate and those that aren't to stay home. Specifically those parties are the Multiple Hands on Massage parties and the occasional gang bang or other 'more intense' parties.

We ask all who attend the party to donate to the house fund. This fund pays for our advertising, web hosting, mixers, ice, candles, linens, party favors, napkins, cups, and other items for the party. It also helps with the general preparation before the party, and cleaning after the party. Anything left will go to support some of the other activities at My Secret House. You can donate at the gate in cash, or make a donation in advance by purchasing a ticket for the event. A secure link for online ticket purchase be provided after you register.

It depends on the event. Usually we ask for $60/couples and $100/single men. When we have couples only parties (since we don't have the extra offset from single men) or other parties where we have to pay for something extra, we usually ask for $75 per couple, sometimes more, sometimes less. For the afternoon sunbathing and swimming we ask for only $25/couple or $40/single men. And of course, we'll always accept more from those who are able and like to support the cause.

We ask single men to donate more because there are so many of them, if we didn't ask a higher donation price first of all we've have a sausage feast, which is great if those single men were bisexual and into other bisexual single men at our Alternative Lifestyle Parties, but for our lifestyle parties we like to keep more of a ratio of about 3:1. And secondly, this is a nice place, and it's not cheap to manage, the donations we bring in from couples alone isn't nearly enough to cover the expenses to keep us going. The little bit extra that we get from the single men help offset that, (although still not enough so feel free to donate more if you can). And lastly, we want to encourage as many single women as we can to come to our parties, and we do this by not asking them for a donation at all.

We don't actually have lockers, but we do have a cubbie cabinet next to the pool table for your things. It's not secure so it's possible that somebody else could take your things, so leave expensive stuff at home. We do have a safe, and other more secure areas, but in the last 5 years of having parties, we've only ever had 2 issues. Overall, people are pretty cool about it. And logically, if you can't trust these people, do you really want to be playing with them?

Bring a dish to share - We have a kitchen, obviously, but we're not a restaurant and people get hungry. Our snack buffet consists of whatever people bring, it's not mandatory, but appreciated if you bring a dish to share, "finger foods" are probably the best choices. We also suggest that you bring condoms, and lube, just in case. (Better to have them and not need them, than to need them and not have them). We also have plenty of towels, so no need to worry about that, however, it's not a bad idea to bring your own since it will help cut our laundry load and expense. Remember to BYOB if you so desire. We'll provide mixers, cups, napkins, etc. Of course we also have ice, blenders, and even straws. And lastly any party could never have too much ice, so feel free to bring a SMALL ice-filled cooler with your beverages.

Clothing is Optional! - Wear whatever you are comfortable in. Use your best judgment. "Dress to impress" certainly applies for many of our parties, and of course if there is a theme we'd like you to go with that. However, keep in mind we are clothing optional, especially during the weekend summer afternoon pool days, but at all times, it's perfectly acceptable to wear nothing at all.

Everyone should RSVP for each party, as this allows us to estimate the amount of mixers, etc. to have on hand. Just type your e-mail address into the RSVP box on our sign-up page.

If this will be your first adventure to one of our parties, please take a few moments to register: Party Registration.

Be sure to provide a valid email address, as we will send you a confirmation message with party details and directions to the house. Once you've registered for your first party, you can easily RSVP for future parties using the same e-mail address (we're pretty sure that you'll be back for more parties, they're awesome!). Registration also counts as your RSVP for the party, so you're all set once you've registered.

Please remember that this is our private home. Anyone unable to respect our guests, neighbors, and property, will be asked to leave the party.